OpenTheo

Thinking Biblically About Abuse, with Jim Newheiser

Life and Books and Everything — Clearly Reformed

Thinking Biblically About Abuse, with Jim Newheiser

August 24, 2021
Life and Books and Everything
Life and Books and EverythingClearly Reformed

In this episode, Kevin is joined by Dr. James Newheiser, theDirector of the Christian Counseling Program and Associate Professor ofChristian Counseling and Pastoral Theology at RTS Charlotte. Attitudes towardabuse, both inside and outside the church, have changed dramatically withinrecent generations. How can pastors deal with this issue Biblically in theircongregations? 

Life and Books and Everything is sponsored by Crossway, publisher of WhatGod Has to Say About Our Bodies, by Sam Allberry. 

In What God Has to Say about Our Bodies, Sam Allberry explains that all of us are fearfully and wonderfully made and should regard our physicality as a gift. He offers biblical guidance for living, including understanding gender, sexuality, and identity; dealing with aging, illness, and death; and considering the physical future hope that we have in Christ. 

For 30% off this book and all other books and Bibles at Crossway, sign up for a free Crossway+ account at crossway.org/LBE.

Timestamps: 

What God Has to Say About Our Bodies [0:00 – 1:27] 

Dr. James R. Newheiser, Jr. [1:27 – 7:01] 

Talking About Abuse [7:01 – 12:31] 

Defining Abuse [12:31 – 16:00] 

Matthew 18 or Romans 13? [16:00 – 24:52] 

Maxims That Try to Help but Cause More Hurt [24:52 – 27:03] 

“Always believe the victim.” [27:03 – 32:14] 

“If you feel abused, then you were abused.” [32:14 – 36:36] 

“It’s never the victim’s fault.” [36:36 – 44:12] 

Marital Separation [44:12 – 48:13] 

Authority: Good and Bad [48:13 – 54:56] 

 

Books and Everything: 

What God Has to Say About Our Bodies, by Sam Allberry  

When Words Matter Most: Speaking Truth with Grace to Those You Love, by Cheryl Marshall and Caroline Newheiser  

Share

FacebookTwitterRedditCopy Link

Transcript

More on OpenTheo

Pentecost and the Gift of the Spirit (with Rev Benjamin Miller)
Pentecost and the Gift of the Spirit (with Rev Benjamin Miller)
Alastair Roberts
May 17, 2024
My friend Benjamin Miller joins me for a seasonal discussion of Pentecost and the gift of the Spirit. Follow my Substack, the Anchored Argosy, at htt
#209 Israel and the Second Coming (Replay)
#209 Israel and the Second Coming (Replay)
Ask NT Wright Anything
March 7, 2024
How should Christians think about the place of Israel today? Do the Jewish people still have a distinct role in God’s purposes? The Bible says Jesus w
How Can I Stay Balanced in My Belief That God Is Always Good to His Children?
How Can I Stay Balanced in My Belief That God Is Always Good to His Children?
#STRask
April 8, 2024
Questions about believing God is always good to his children while rejecting prosperity teaching, how God can be jealous if he is love and love is not
#210 The Problem of Evil and Suffering: questions with NT Wright (Replay)
#210 The Problem of Evil and Suffering: questions with NT Wright (Replay)
Ask NT Wright Anything
March 7, 2024
In today's Episode theologian and historian Tom Wright looks at listener questions on one of the biggest topics and questions the Christian faith face
#214 Is the Old Testament history or metaphor? (Replay)
#214 Is the Old Testament history or metaphor? (Replay)
Ask NT Wright Anything
April 11, 2024
Tom answers listener questions about the Old Testament. Can the truly trust the Old Testament? When was it all written? Is the Old Testament more spir
Is an Embryo a Baby?
Is an Embryo a Baby?
#STRask
May 2, 2024
Questions about whether the fact that you can freeze an embryo but not a baby proves an embryo isn’t a baby and whether it would be wrong to use IVF w
#212 The New Testament in its World with special guest and co-author Mike Bird
#212 The New Testament in its World with special guest and co-author Mike Bird
Ask NT Wright Anything
March 28, 2024
Today's episode features a special guest - renowned Australian Bible scholar, co-authored and friend of Tom's, Mike Bird. Together, they delve into th
Are We Only Interpreting the Bible This Way Because of Our Post-Enlightenment Way of Thinking?
Are We Only Interpreting the Bible This Way Because of Our Post-Enlightenment Way of Thinking?
#STRask
March 7, 2024
Questions about whether we’re only interpreting the Bible according to authorial intent because of our post-Enlightenment way of thinking and whether
Tree?!? I am no Tree!!!
Tree?!? I am no Tree!!!
For The King
April 17, 2024
The LOTR trilogy has some amazing principles on how we think about the enchantment of nature. We hope you are edified during this discussion! Key Te
Leisure and Idleness
Leisure and Idleness
For The King
March 10, 2024
Is there a difference between leisure and idleness? We hope to uncover the difference between these two and give you some thoughts on how to engage in
Is It Okay to Be Part of a Music Ministry That’s Led by a Professing Mormon?
Is It Okay to Be Part of a Music Ministry That’s Led by a Professing Mormon?
#STRask
April 11, 2024
Questions about whether it’s okay to be part of a music ministry that’s led by a professing Mormon, whether a woman should date a man who isn’t as spi
Finding the Validity of the Resurrection of Jesus
Finding the Validity of the Resurrection of Jesus
Risen Jesus
May 2, 2024
In this episode, Dr. Licona discusses his process for finding the validity of the resurrection while writing his book, “The Resurrection of Jesus: A N
Why Do Atheists Get Angry When I Bring up Belief in God?
Why Do Atheists Get Angry When I Bring up Belief in God?
#STRask
March 11, 2024
Questions about why atheists get angry when someone brings up belief in God, how to reconcile God’s sovereignty and Satan being the prince of the worl
Is There Something I Can Do to Develop Love for Christ if I Am Emotionally Detached?
Is There Something I Can Do to Develop Love for Christ if I Am Emotionally Detached?
#STRask
March 14, 2024
Questions about whether there is something a person can do to develop love for Christ if they are emotionally detached and whether one should stay in
#217 Dear Tom: I've got questions about Marriage (Replay)
#217 Dear Tom: I've got questions about Marriage (Replay)
Ask NT Wright Anything
May 2, 2024
Tom delves into the complexities of marriage, addressing personal and burning questions from our listeners. From pondering the nature of married relat